My sit-down comedy routine on boundaries
A million thanks to WOW, Diana Lindsay, and George Henny for capturing this in 2012. I just got this yesterday, so if you missed this- here is my own journey learning boundaries. There are also many other women's stories saved by WOW and worth watching.
Enjoy! Happy 2014! May your boundaries serve you well!
I am a psychotherapist and the author of The Mystery of Knowing Journal, Transform Your Boundaries, and Naming and Taming Overwhelm. My experience has not been limited to a small room with a couch. I also ran 3 non-profit organizations for 20 years, founding 2 of those orgs and taught leadership 7 years.
Making boundaries, selfcare, and overwhelm recovery easier has become my life purpose. I believe many of our conflicts, stress, and difficulties comes from the need to develop a deeper understanding about boundaries and connection. I have workshops and online classes to help you grow your self-care and boundaries. www.sarrigilman.com
Making a video of the workshop for people to use at home
I am a psychotherapist and the author of The Mystery of Knowing Journal, Transform Your Boundaries, and Naming and Taming Overwhelm. My experience has not been limited to a small room with a couch. I also ran 3 non-profit organizations for 20 years, founding 2 of those orgs and taught leadership 7 years.
Making boundaries, selfcare, and overwhelm recovery easier has become my life purpose. I believe many of our conflicts, stress, and difficulties comes from the need to develop a deeper understanding about boundaries and connection. I have workshops and online classes to help you grow your self-care and boundaries. www.sarrigilman.com
Are boundaries for everyone?
I am a psychotherapist and the author of The Mystery of Knowing Journal, Transform Your Boundaries, and Naming and Taming Overwhelm. My experience has not been limited to a small room with a couch. I also ran 3 non-profit organizations for 20 years, founding 2 of those orgs and taught leadership 7 years.
Making boundaries, selfcare, and overwhelm recovery easier has become my life purpose. I believe many of our conflicts, stress, and difficulties comes from the need to develop a deeper understanding about boundaries and connection. I have workshops and online classes to help you grow your self-care and boundaries. www.sarrigilman.com
Will you protect your boundaries?
Ever wonder about people who don’t get it? You’ve said, “No. Please don’t, I would prefer
if you didn’t…” You hear yourself
saying, “I’ve said it a thousand times and still they keep doing it!”
Sometimes when we set boundaries, we need to take a lesson
from nature. This hive is a great image
for boundaries. If someone doesn’t
respect your polite and nicely stated “no”, go ahead and put a little sting
into it.
Other people show us exactly how much sting we need in our
boundary. If someone responds to your
polite and gentle “no”, there is no need to put any sting in it.
But if the person crashes through your boundary, stop being
kind and sweet. Wipe the smile off your
face and put some sharp “stingers” into your “No”.
It is not “mean” to be firm when someone needs it.
Some people are not respecting your boundary.
The wasps will protect their boundary. Will you protect yours?
Boundary Practice Lesson Cards are available here
I am a psychotherapist and the author of The Mystery of Knowing Journal, Transform Your Boundaries, and Naming and Taming Overwhelm. My experience has not been limited to a small room with a couch. I also ran 3 non-profit organizations for 20 years, founding 2 of those orgs and taught leadership 7 years.
Making boundaries, selfcare, and overwhelm recovery easier has become my life purpose. I believe many of our conflicts, stress, and difficulties comes from the need to develop a deeper understanding about boundaries and connection. I have workshops and online classes to help you grow your self-care and boundaries. www.sarrigilman.com
It is December, Boundary Season is Now Open
Four Rules:
1-
No credit-card binging
2-
Try not to make it ONLY about ‘others’
3-
Repeat this word as much as possible and see
what happens: ‘Enough’
4-
Go outside and play!
enough enough Enough enough
Every day is actually a day to know your boundaries, but
December offers extra challenges to everyone.
Try not to make this month ONLY about ‘others’. It is important to take care of yourself
during the holiday season. Rest, relax,
play. This is the season when people
feel so much pressure and expectations from others and from ourselves. Some of those expectations may be real some
are imagined. It is good to sit down and talk with those closest to you about
expectations for the holiday season and get clear on your priorities and how
you will spend your time. Not just serve, plan, shop, wrap, give, work extra, give,
give, do, do, do. I do some things to be
sure I have saved some time for myself to go for long walks, and to play and
have fun with my family. I like to knit,
but I need to limit how much knitting for ‘others’ I expect of myself. Each year I make my husband one sweater, but I
allow myself to complete it whenever I get it done, not necessarily in
December. I don’t believe in credit card gifting, so I focus on not
binge-spending. Everything looks so darn appealing this time of year. I take
inventory in my closet to remind myself that I have plenty of clothes, and so
does everyone else I love.
The word that helps me with boundaries in December is ‘Enough’.
I am a psychotherapist and the author of The Mystery of Knowing Journal, Transform Your Boundaries, and Naming and Taming Overwhelm. My experience has not been limited to a small room with a couch. I also ran 3 non-profit organizations for 20 years, founding 2 of those orgs and taught leadership 7 years.
Making boundaries, selfcare, and overwhelm recovery easier has become my life purpose. I believe many of our conflicts, stress, and difficulties comes from the need to develop a deeper understanding about boundaries and connection. I have workshops and online classes to help you grow your self-care and boundaries. www.sarrigilman.com
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