There is tremendous power in the things we say to ourselves. Sometimes the voices we hear in our heads can beat us up, panic in the face of hard things, and tell us over and over that we are failing when in fact we are facing a challenge.
Those voices in your head need to be taught what to say and when. Create a boundary to dismiss the crazy harmful talk in your head and instead give yourself the supportive helpful messages you need when you are stressed.
This boundary is something you teach yourself. You correct negative thoughts that make you feel terrible while you are going through something terrible.
When you are stressed, here are 4 helpful things to say to yourself:
#1-I am doing the best I can in this circumstance.
Give your hardworking self some credit. Maybe the problem isn’t solved, but you are working at it. You need to acknowledge you. Your inner spirit/soul is listening to what you say to you.
#2-It’s okay to take a break and take care of myself.
When you are stressed, you may find it hard to sleep. Give yourself permission to rest and refuel. You can’t take care of anything or anyone when you are running on empty.
#3-I can make some healthy choices today.
Caring for you is so important to relieve distress. Making your healthy choice is a way to refuel, it is also a way to restore some confidence in yourself during a challenge. You may not be able to control the problem you are facing right now, but you can control your healthy choices and help yourself feel cared for and stronger.
#4-I will pay attention to my body aches and needs and care for those.
It is easy to step out of our bodies and get tangled up in stress. But the stress always finds a landing place physically. Take a few moments to notice your body posture. Drop your shoulders. Do some gentle stretching to adjust your body to be less strained. Take a bathroom break, a walk, and eat when you are hungry.
Save these 4 sentences somewhere so you can find them when you need them.
Being stressed doesn’t help you through stress.
Repeat these 4 sentences often. It will give you breathing space and the care you need during a challenge.
Join me for the next online class: Boundaries and Stress | June 8, 2018 Sign up here: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/boundaries-and-stress-live-webinar-with-sarri-gilman-tickets-46119417419
It is one hour and if you miss the class, you will get the recording.