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My sit-down comedy routine on boundaries

A million thanks to WOW, Diana Lindsay, and George Henny for capturing this in 2012. I just got this yesterday, so if you missed this- here is my own journey learning boundaries. There are also many other women's stories saved by WOW and worth watching.
Enjoy! Happy 2014! May your boundaries serve you well!

Making a video of the workshop for people to use at home


Are boundaries for everyone?

Are boundaries for everyone? Only if you think world peace is important.Love,Sarri

Will you protect your boundaries?

Ever wonder about people who don’t get it? You’ve said, “No. Please don’t, I would prefer if you didn’t…”You hear yourself saying, “I’ve said it a thousand times and still they keep doing it!” Sometimes when we set boundaries, we need to take a lesson from nature.This hive is a great image for boundaries.If someone doesn’t respect your polite and nicely stated “no”, go ahead and put a little sting into it. Other people show us exactly how much sting we need in our boundary. If someone responds to your polite and gentle “no”, there is no need to put any sting in it. But if the person crashes through your boundary, stop being kind and sweet. Wipe the smile off your face and put some sharp “stingers” into your “No”. It is not “mean” to be firm when someone needs it. Some people are not respecting your boundary. The wasps will protect their boundary. Will you protect yours?
Boundary Practice Lesson Cards are available here

It is December, Boundary Season is Now Open

Four Rules: 1-No credit-card binging 2-Try not to make it ONLY about ‘others’ 3-Repeat this word as much as possible and see what happens: ‘Enough’ 4-Go outside and play! enough enough

What makes setting boundaries hard?

I have been a therapist for 27 years.  I have learned that many people are struggling with their true Yes and No. Problems with Yes and No can show up as all kinds of other things such as a relapse, depression, anxiety, even physical pain.  It seems that even if people come to see me about marriage counseling, or work related stress, no matter what they come in for, we are probably going to need to do some deep digging out of their true Yes and No. Over many years, and much practice, I have created a way of digging out boundaries, a set of tools,  to help people. I have created a map that anyone can use to dig out their inner Yes and No. While I truly do not know what boundaries you need in your life, I believe deep inside you know. I teach people to use the map to dig out their own inner Yes and No. Sometimes people don't like their inner truth. They argue with their own Yes and No. It can be hard to accept what you find inside, often it is not what you want to hear. This stuff …