What makes setting boundaries hard?

I have been a therapist for 27 years.  I have learned that many people are struggling with their true Yes and No. Problems with Yes and No can show up as all kinds of other things such as a relapse, depression, anxiety, even physical pain.  It seems that even if people come to see me about marriage counseling, or work related stress, no matter what they come in for, we are probably going to need to do some deep digging out of their true Yes and No. Over many years, and much practice, I have created a way of digging out boundaries, a set of tools,  to help people.

I have created a map that anyone can use to dig out their inner Yes and No. While I truly do not know what boundaries you need in your life, I believe deep inside you know. I teach people to use the map to dig out their own inner Yes and No.

Sometimes people don't like their inner truth. They argue with their own Yes and No. It can be hard to accept what you find inside, often it is not what you want to hear. This stuff can be very tricky because sometimes you really really want your Yes and No to take care of other people. You want it to be ok that you sacrifice everything for someone else.

But deep inside, your very own Yes and No isn't able to take care of anyone else. Your boundaries only take care of you, and that is what makes setting boundaries so hard. Your boundaries aren't here to please or take care of other people.

Visit my website www.sarrigilman.com for workshops and tools to strengthen your boundaries.