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The Difference between Me and Cesar Millan, The Dog Whisperer
If you are a fan of Cesar Millan, The Dog Whisperer, you know that while he is world-famous as a dog trainer, he is actually a boundary teacher. He actually uses the word “boundary” on his website more than I use it on mine. If you don’t believe me, check out www.cesarsway.com.
I love watching Cesar’s show. I never tire of watching him teach boundaries to humans, again and again. Teaching boundary skills is so darn rewarding because like Cesar, I see results immediately. Like Cesar, I empower humans to achieve balance in their lives.
Of course, teaching boundaries to humans interacting with dogs is different from teaching humans how to use boundaries with other humans.
#1- Dogs go into a calm, submissive state when you set boundaries with them appropriately. Unfortunately, humans do not. In fact, when you set boundaries with humans, sometimes they have a fit. The emotional storm can vary in intensity. No need to stand there and watch the storm! However, it is essential that you not allow your boundaries to be manipulated or moved based on emotions.
#2- No leash. Sorry, I don’t have any kind of leash to give you to when you set boundaries with a human. But in a three-hour workshop, I can equip you with every skill you will need to set boundaries effectively with people.
#3-I don’t recommend giving humans a hug right after you set a boundary with them. Try giving a hug to a teenager right after you said No to something and you’ll find out what I mean. Humans get confused and think you’re apologizing for having a boundary. They imagine that you don’t really intend to stick to your boundary.
#4- While you may have one dog or several dogs, most of us have lots and lots of human relationships.
It’s very stressful to have a dog that is out of control. The same is true when we don’t use our boundaries to manage relationships with other people. The stress can be overwhelming. But, when you are ready, you can find balance. When you learn the techniques and use the tools, you will feel relief.
Did you visit Cesar’s site? Were you surprised to see success stories about parenting and overcoming disabilities? It can be hard to see all the invisible ways that boundaries are at work in our lives and in our jobs. Learning how to use your boundaries to take care of you in any demanding situation will change your life for the better.
Are you ready to learn more? Come to a workshop. We use my book, Transform Your Boundaries, and I walk you through this process.
Upcoming Open Workshops:
This workshop is approved for continuing education credits for social workers, marriage and family therapists, and mental health counselors.
CEUs have just been granted for Oregon… see you there soon.