Are You a People-Person

Are you a people-person?
People-persons work with people and really enjoy working with people. We use any excuse really to get-together with others, we know relationships are a contact sport.

People-persons tend to pick professions where there is high contact with others - think health care, education, human services, service oriented companies where people matter - the list is long.

While we seek to work in places where people matter, we do tend to have one vulnerability with people immersion, and that is how do we take care of our ourselves when there are so many others to focus on?

Our attention tends to go outward onto others. We are good at noticing others, and after all, that is what makes us people-persons, noticing and caring about others.

However, when our attention is on other people for the majority of the day, it can be hard to notice what is happening to us. Did I stop to eat today? Did I just say yes to something that I don't have time to do?
Did I just "over-help" someone?

It can be hard to take care of yourself when your attention is on others. For some people-persons, when their people job ends during the day, they come to a family that needs their attention and care as well. People-persons may find themselves needed by others at work and at home.

If you are a people-person, I have designed a workshop to help you use your boundaries to take care of yourself, while you care for others.

Some people-persons find themselves struggling with their boundaries in the face of other people.

Join me for one of my upcoming Transform Your Boundaries® workshop and in 3 hours, you will focus on how to stay connected to you while you work/ live with others. These are skills that can be used at home and at work.

Limited seating to ensure a personal experience pre-register to attend:$150/person includes book, card deck of boundary skills, and a 3 hour workshop intensive.
June 27- Everett
July 11-Mukilteo
August 1- Edmonds

Boundaries and the Psyche

'It is appropriate to respect the boundaries of the psyche- sometimes we are just not ready to see what we will see, or feel what we will feel.'  Pat Schneider, How The Light Gets In
Our boundaries have one job, to take care of us. Sometimes protecting the psyche is necessary.
Other times, our boundaries , our Yes and No -have pulled the curtain aside and we know, see, and feel what is true for us at a very deep level. If we ignore this, suppress it, smother it, there will be consequences for our well being. Knowing what we know is our wisdom and it is life-changing.

We will explore how your boundaries can take care of you at my upcoming workshop: Transform Your Boundaries
June 27- Everett             July 11- Mukilteo                          August 1- Edmonds
Register online

The Lunch Boundary

"And lunch is important. It is the separation between the front of the day and the back, a narrow strip between stretches of work." Peter Miller, Lunch At The Shop.

This book is a truly a call to honor ourselves by stopping for lunch. Not a long lunch, and not a lunch out. Peter describes ways to stop and eat homemade food, and to make it a ritual and opportunity for connecting with your community of co-workers. He describes his daily lunch in his office with his co-workers. Their focus on coming together for lunch is incredibly brief each day, but packed with ritual, connection, and sustains them as community.

Peter owns the shop Peter Miller in Seattle. His leadership to make everyone pause for a connection and healthy food has had a profound impact on the culture of his business.

He gives step by step instructions to be intentional and truly thoughtful about each part of the lunch, focusing on simplicity, connecting to those nearest to you,  committed to touching the senses, and making the experience worthwhile.

As I continue to recover from workaholism, and set boundaries, I am learning to make soups and inviting people to enjoy lunch with me.

I encourage you to find a way to hold boundaries around eating a healthy lunch each day and sharing it with others.